Why do we get stressed?

Written by Christine Webber, psychotherapist and life coach

Not releasing stress can affect your mental health.

In 2009, Australian research suggested that one in two of us will have problems with stress during our lifetimes.

Studies on stress in the workplace

Studies have shown that the most stressful occupations in Britain are: the prison service, the police, social work and teaching – closely followed by a whole range of NHS jobs, including nursing and doctoring.
In addition, there's the massive problem of ‘post-traumatic stress’, which is common in certain occupations. For instance, in 2009, many cases of post-traumatic stress disorder are being seen in Britain’s armed forces.
In general terms, many experts believe that most stress in the UK occurs because of our long hours culture.
In February 2007, the Trades Union Congress (TUC) reported that the average employee does almost an extra day’s work (seven hours) per week in overtime.
And in many offices, individuals are working far longer hours – notably in accounting, advertising, law, IT, public relations and broadcasting.
So does this long hours culture matter when we think about stress?

Long hours and stress

Long hours on the job may be viewed by some employers as a way of getting more work done. But in the longer term the consequences of this work pattern appears to be that it:

• increases sickness absences
• increases workplace stress
• has serious health and safety implications
• contributes to low morale in the organisation.

All this means is, we need to look carefully at our lifestyles to try to limit the amount of stress we're suffering.

What happens to us physically when we're stressed?

We are all born with an instinctive stress response.

• Whenever a potentially dangerous situation arises, stress hormones are released into our bloodstream.
• They cause instant mental and physical change in us, giving added strength and endurance, and make us feel pumped-up and ready to fight.
• Stress hormones also enable us to run away much faster than we could normally manage.

This response is generally called the 'fight or flight syndrome'.
The fight or flight syndrome was vital when we used to live in the wild and were liable to attack from other tribes or wild animals. We still use it today.
Suppose someone tried to snatch your child while you were shopping.

Why your parents getting angry?

I loved to play outside when I was a kid. My activities made  my parents so worried. To tell you the truth,I loved climbing trees, swimming in river,pond and roamed around to the jungle.It considered fun at that time.What  I  realized now is why my parents asked me not to play at that time because it was dangerous, not because they tried to stop me from playing.Same as when I told my kids not to do this and that because there's something that parents try to tell in which kids sometimes misunderstand the message.

 I asked my kids to follow my order because I want them to learn first and to follow proper technique before they experience their own one day.But I think they're so eager to do things that against the issue.  I am not getting angry for trying,but I am getting angry because they try to ignore parents orders. Not so bad to follow because its not going to hurt any one.
I advised all kids try to understand your parents first
because they are experienced enough to tell you how and what to do in life.
If you happen to  become parents one day you will know why parents so eager to guide you.
Is it too difficult to follow or listen to your parents?
If you that experienced why not show your parents what you can do.
Impress your parents what talents do you have
Don't just make them angry
Make them  proud and happy
while
they
still around
to tell you
right or wrong

Fikirkan

Perang NAFSU musuh(nyata)Jihad terulung kepada manusia.Tahukah kita bahawa AKAL adalah musuh(tidak nyata)paling licik yang sangat banyak memesongkan manusia ke jalan KESESATAN! Lumrah manusia dengan akalnya "mereka sentiasa menyangka benar tiap perkataan dan perbuatannya"tanpa disedari padahal mereka itu dalam kesesatan yang nyata" Al Quran.

Ayuh kita hijrahkan minda kita zahir dan batin dengan petunjuk Allah SWT melalui ISLAM agamaNya.Salawat dan salam kepada Rasul junjungan Nabi Muhamad SAW


Taken from my hubby SMS 7 Dec 2010 1432 Hijrah.
We 're temporarily khalifah in this world
make proper movement  before its too late
Ask before do
make friends not enemy

What "laugh' can do to us?

Happy! avoid from having stress or release the burden of work.Manage to proceed or at least with great pleasure without tense.Let me share with you some jokes what might make you happy.
Why I  choose my career?
Would you like to continue your father's career as an eye specialist?
No!
Why?
My  father unable to make much money
Why not?
A person only got 2 eyes,so nothing much to do with them.
So what would you like to be
I would like to be a doctor also only in different specialization
What then?
I would like to be a dentist
why ?
Each person got 32 teeth, so I might be richer than my father.

So each person got jokes to tell, proceed with it as long as you're not hurting other.To make people happy is a very sincere thought.

Do parents and kids got the same vision?

I used to remember my childhood time,ye just in case I overlooked into my kids problems. I think parents expecting too much or maybe too protecting upon their kids.I am not blaming them but rather look at it as a good sign as parents. Responsible, eager to know and the most important is parents got vision for their kids. What and what for sure the goodness always!
Let us see whats kids thinking:
Early morning the kids got to go to school
they are forced to take their breakfast, those kids having no appetite to eat(sleeping time)
They go to school as early as 6.00 am and coming back around 2.00 pm (9 hours)
2.00 _ 4.00 pm tuition time somebody taking care of(need flying color grades)
4.00 _ 6.00 pm  outside or inside games
7.00 pm parents arrive from work
Where 're the communication time?
If mom fully housewife staying at home
mom ll take care of everything
the behavior,the character,and so and so
Daddy ask and everything should be in place
Do kids blinding their eyes?
There is something wrong in our society
Both parents: mom and dad should take responsibility
Educate the kids together
Act before its too late
kids are precious , future leaders
parents should work together, guide the kids to see not to force
I, myself like to enjoy during my childhood until I realize without education future
might be okey or not okey
but I know this era need education as part of future trend
in order for us to survive
EDUCATION, formal study needed
you want it or not you have to be in it
Parents always want the best from their kids
kids need attention and care in order for them to
proceed with this process
parents should realize it
kids should manage  to grab the opportunity
just follow your parents good plans
dearest kids you 'll never regret anything
as long as  the parents guide you into good intention
As easy as that: Say yes if good, say no if bad

What is 'Hijrah" to you?

Many people must have heard or come across with this word "hijrah' But many people just see it as it is or thats part of the routine or cultural celebration. For me hijrah is the main or the base to find a new me every year to come, Let me put it this way.If happen to be a person that busy enough to hurt other people feelings year 2010 I will or must look at myself and as fast as possible CHANGE not hurting others or never anymore next year onwards CHANGE FOR GOOD or TAUBAT for the rest of my life.That the meaning of hijrah for individual.As a whole the person should involve himself in the society for the better.Let me precise the issue:
  As a student:
I am not good in my study because I am lazy enough to study,but now I want to hijrah myself
I would like to study smart, so I could be a better person in the future.
I love to lepak with friends during maghrib time and my parents usually angry and I fight back to protect my right
I will change to respect my parents for good
I like to quarrel with my siblings over small matters and sometimes I shouted to them just to protect my ego
I try my best to let go of my ego and be nice to my siblings
Let me say it or ask you:
Do you think a person can change overnight?
Insyallah nothing impossible
Why change needed?
We want to live in peace,right?
We want to live in good environment, right?
We want people to see us as a person,not some one everybody afraid of
We want people to recognize us as individual not a person to talk bad about
So which one do you choose?
Hijrah is the time to realize or recognize or to analyze or to identify oneself
why do you have to change for the better?
You, yourself know better than anyone else
Find out or search for yourself
what change should I do
so HIJRAH as we celebrated every awal Muharram will be meaningful
not only for you but for the whole society  as one
May awal Muharram on the 7 DEC 2010 you are
new you for the better

DO MYTH EXIST?

Once upon a time, long,long time ago,hundred years ago! Whatever you want to start with people really talk about it. It happens and already a history to many of us.But do all passed by you really a history? Or is it a way to identify undone business around us.I passed by one of the group considered old folks.They said:
Just imagine new generations nowadays thought we are outdated
they think they are up to date people
How do you know that?
The way the talk to us.
One of the young one says:
Yo,yo whats up,whats up lady!
The aunt understands the language,but what's wrong with it?
Less respect maybe
Do respect needed anymore?
Are good manners outdated to us?
The students in school happen to be caught by the discipline teacher,he says:
come on teacher,I didn't do much,I just touch here and there
nothing more, so and so five months later
Sir,the girl in my class is not coming to school anymore
Why? You know sir,modern people nowadays?
The teacher says: What is it?
She's is carrying something after 9 months she'll be okay
Wow! so easy to say.
Do you think not having boyfriend outdated to you?
Not touching here and there is outdated to you?
Is getting married outdated to us?
Old folks said:
wait study first,work well one day you;ll meet the handsome for woman and the beautiful for man.
Don't worry too much about it because the old folks you thought outdated full of experiences
respect yourself and respect others
you'll feel good about it no matter where you are
Actually no boarder between young and old because
the different are the ages and experiences
listen and see you,ll
adapt wisely
no regret, not even cry for past experiences
because the way you see things based on
what others can see
mirror, mirror on the wall
who is smartest among all
think about it!