Old days practises are still considered the best.

I missed those days.

Respect is the best discipline 

young respected the eldest

The eldest guided the young

I remembered that day, I used to help my mom and dad without being asked to do so

but now I realized the kids just pretending or ignoring 

they don't care about their parents

I can see while the smallest matter involved

washing dishes!!!

their parents involved to do that too.

its okay if they are still small,but the adult

they just watching and pretending nothing happened around them

I don't think this happened during old days

The difference

Less caring kids nowadays

The eldest called their names three times,then they response

Too many distraction make their ears skeptical and not focus

Food

Many ,but more to fast food

lazy to prepare

old days food well-prepared and healthy

that's why they were strong and stay in good health

Manners

I don't know you, I'm not going to say anything even if  we're neighbors

That's the bad things about our new generation

Old days respected each other was the important values in life

Where are we now?

Do we have to keep our pride and destruction values further?

or why not learned from the eldest how to keep the generations live in harmony

at least we're not that unhappy

to leave our kids

behind

with lots of sadness and alone

to face any difficulties

in the future

find ways

kids will valued the practices

with kindness and love
one day kids will appreciated.

How to build a good citizen?

During school time
don't ignore those failures
and don't  praises those with flying colors only
without realizing it we destroyed their future to prove
their potential 
achievement in life
open up
people can change
from bad to good
or vice versa
be more careful

During career time
some lazy
some really hard working
although praises those hard working a must
but we need to motivate those unpleasant workers to upgrade
so there's balance
No one left behind
We are surrounded with different people
Some normal ,some abnormal
be just
that's the way life is
pray for the best
we 're not permanently staying here
so why worry
enjoy your life and take part
as caliph you're responsible
to build better citizen
to live  in peace and harmony
think about it

Reasons some people steal

1. for survival- lose jobs, no income,,need to eat

2. would rather steal than work for money- easy money
   
3. peers pressure- 'cool' to try

4. addiction to steal- drug addiction

WHATEVER THE REASONS : STEALING IS WRONG!!!

JUST IMAGINE IF YOU'RE THE VICTIMS

THINK BEFORE DO.

Why do people LAZY?

Laziness is not an incurable disease.It is only a state of mind someone comfortable  with.Why lazy?

1. enjoy being lazy -too relax.
2. lack of motivation
3.don't take time to think -letting others to handle
   don't mind being selfish as long as for own comfort.
4. rely on others
5. addiction to something- enjoy the moment,don't care about  other things.
6.develop at young age- clean own room,wash own clothes,fix own plates-
   expecting others to do it.

DO YOU THINK YOU CAN STAY THAT WAY FOREVER?DO OTHERS ALWAYS SIDED YOU?
THINK PROPERLY, NO ONE CAN STAND LAZY PEOPLE AROUND!!!

Why do people love to blame others?

Blaming others considered common because of several reasons:

1. loss of control of the situation make that person feel helpless.
2. try to control others by insulting or saying bad things to make others feel bad.
3. learned behavior from childhood from their parents actions
4 refusing to admit they are responsible, so the easiest way - blame others
   " I was late because of traffic jam"
5.Unable to accept what happened

These people are helpless. They Thought by blaming others they are in control.

How to avoid this:
1. Be responsible
2. Be in control of your life so you don't blame innocent people.
YOU KNOW MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE, SO BE ALERT AND MORE RESPONSIBLE.

words we share

                                                                          bok             book


                                                skru            screw  


bambu        bamboo


                                                                             icecream     ice cream


roadblok         road block


                                                                                                       siling               ceiling


televisin   television


                                              mesin    machine

Let's learn new language- Samah Kota Belud

Sian oron nu? What is your name?


Lawa bana kau  You are so beautiful


Mingo kau temban?  Where do you live?


Sian yang nu? What is your mother's name?


Sian Ma nu? What.s your father's name?

Why are you ready to get married?

First:
You are ready and a very responsible person.
Second:
You are already buying a house with full facilities, making much money to spend  and a good transport to ride.
Third:
Of course the most important  thing you already found the most suitable partner.
Fourth:
Why wait
I
KNOW
YOU'RE
THE
BEST
JUDGE
OF
ALL.

Why having special boyfriend /girlfriend is not suitable for you?

First:

You have to focus your time to a particular person only and you are not allowed to mix freely as usual with other friends opposite sex. You are alone and will never enjoy your school life anymore. Your partner tries to control your social life and limit your movement. Do you enjoy being controlled? if yes, I have nothing  to say then.

Second:

Your focus will be divided. You are obsessed to meet your partner more than in your study. You tend to mix your concentration with pleasure and do think about together with your partner rather than planning your future.

Third:

You used your parents money to spend your girl/boy. How absurd Are you okay or you are not ashamed at all.

Fourth:

You're unable to  get a good job at your age yet.

Fifth:

In case you got married early. Imagine your spending:Do you want to stay at your parents or in laws? How do you spend your money for food? How do you buy clothes for your partner? how do you feed your incoming kids? Do you have enough money to send your kids to school?DO YOU THINK YOU'RE READY NOW?

Think about it or you might regret it later.

Enjoy your life while it can and make space for yourself

You will meet someone that the most suitable for you

I

KNOW

YOU'RE

THE

BEST

THINKER!!!

Why do people misinterpret things?

  its human nature

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because they don't hear you properly? that question is really vague can u give an example or something?

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it is human nature to focus on negative before positive.

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that's how the life is

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because they maybe do not listen correctly at what you say or really do not pay any attention .

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We all have what is called interceptors in our brains. IF any of these interceptors get pre-occupied with any other information currently running through your mind you will get offset and cause a misinterpretation of the question or thought given and that is my personal opinion and not based on facts.

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Personality disorder?

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We all have our own way of thinking.. looking at things.. perception varies from person to person .. and that depends on a lot of other things.. environment, upbringing, chemical makeup .. mental health issues.. drug use/abuse.. some people are very insecure .. others have trust issues (possibly been lied to a lot and are more suspicious) ..
But .. Most of us seem to think that if we think one way that others think the same as us .. so when I say something that I intend to be taken possibly as a joke .. someone who's had a bad experience with the subject of my joke may actually perceive me as attacking them! ..
There are also "non verbal" cues that some of us just can't interpret .. don't have that ability for one reason or another .. and so you could be joking with an "obvious" (to you) joking expression .. but someone with say "aspergers syndrom" (a form of autism) .. just would NOT get it. No ones fault .. just the way we humans are .. We are all Different..
If you think someone is misinterpreting you or if you think you might be taking someone the wrong way - TALK ABOUT IT. We don't read minds .. despite what some think!

** Just read your additions .. sounds a lot like aspergers syndrome.. very common for those with it to be the target of bullies .. hence the perception that "everyone" hates them .. when indeed they don't. This condition is way more common than people know .. check it out!

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Generally speaking, some people don't really listen to what another person is saying. They sometimes take it the wrong way or they have there own preconceived opinion already formed because they didn't study or research the situation.

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there are several factors that affect the brain's ability to process anything. Limited language, a damaged part of the brain, socio-economic background of the receiver, the body language of the sender, the tone and volume of voice of the sender, the hearing ability of the receiver, etc. These things affect the way a message is sent and delivered and understood.
To exemplify, how many ways can you say "hello"?

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People misinterpret things for many reasons:

1. People often are so wrapped up in their own thoughts that they focus on what we think another person is saying rather than what the listener actually hears
2. The listener may not hear our message as we intend it to be heard because people hear what they want to hear
3.. Sometimes, the speaker doesn't communicate their message well
4. Language/experience barriers
5. Paranoia/fear
6. Many people are plagued with depression, mental illness or fatigue
7. Some people just like to argue and have conflict
8. Culture differences

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There isn't one clear and definitive answer really.

There could be more than one of several reasons at any given time. Just a few...

The person trying to explain might not have great communications skills and/or the person trying to understand, might not have great listening skills.

The person who you are communicating with might be defensive or sensitive about the particular subject at hand so they may not see it as generalized as another person.

The person might not know the entire reason you are telling them what it is you are telling them.

Think of it like this... you ask your friend - "Did you brush your teeth this morning?"

You friend might think in their head - "My breath must stink... why else would they ask me that!?"

Meanwhile the reason you are asking as nothing to do with that... it could have been something you wanted to tell her about running the water.

Anyway... I believe it has a lot to do with the ability to communicate effectively and also to do with trying to keep an open mind about what is being said.

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Maybe its because of the way people deal with one another on a very generic basis when some people are so different... That they sometimes need something a little extra to exist... something that makes most people believe that they are snobs, needy or weak, or strange, or creepy... People are not kind... especially in groups of women.

People attack weakness... and what some see as a misinterpretation of the facts on the part of the person who is being judged or chastised: You, looking in from the outside, just don't know what exactly is being said, to what extreme or why because maybe you are not the one doing it? People like to group themselves into cliques and usually can't admit to themselves that something they consider themselves to be a part of, would do something like that. There is always a clueless innocent in every group of wolves...

Basically people know what they do and do not do and why... No one ever actually admits to it. No one likes to admit that they are bastards... So the consensus stands and says that it is paranoia and fear on the part of the one outcast, against the many in the pack.

Animals do it indiscriminately because emotions are not involved so they don't have to lie about it or hide it... They just do... without justification, regret or denial because it serves a means to an end in ridding themselves of the weak in the pack which usually go off somewhere and die after having to fight off everyone they try and approach for sympathy... Women especially, are pack wolves!

Personally... I hate people that talk out of the sides of their mouths in passing... Stage whisperers. with their double ended comments and pasquanades... left hanging around the neck of the uninitiated, the un included, the strange freak who just can seem to manage to incorporate themselves into mainstream normalcy.

Not because they don't want to. But because they are unable.
There is very little compassion for people like this. People who can't manage to learn how to be included or accepted or a part of something. People who always have to juggle their perspective and conform to something that they don't approve of or agree with to belong and NOT get hurt or chastised or made a pirriah of.

I know because I am one. After years of the same old same old. Eventually you just have to shut yourself down and even though you sometimes know better and assume the worst or best depending on the situation... People never cease to amaze me with the extremes they are willing to go to to hurt and destroy someone else just for giggles... and often times, just because they can.

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Because we expect things to always be bad and always think that things are in way that don't help us, so we always expect the worst things, because we never have enough self confidence in ourselves. BY HAVING THAT FEELING WE THINK THAT WE MUST GET THE WORST OF THINGS.
It is sad but is the truth!!

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It can be as simple as the English language and statements
meaning different things,to as complicated as each individual misinterprating something based on many different things. These may include sensitivity, past experience, education, language comprehension, trust level of the person receiving information,conflicts, trauma new experiences and I'm sure many others.

Why do we get stressed?

Written by Christine Webber, psychotherapist and life coach

Not releasing stress can affect your mental health.

In 2009, Australian research suggested that one in two of us will have problems with stress during our lifetimes.

Studies on stress in the workplace

Studies have shown that the most stressful occupations in Britain are: the prison service, the police, social work and teaching – closely followed by a whole range of NHS jobs, including nursing and doctoring.
In addition, there's the massive problem of ‘post-traumatic stress’, which is common in certain occupations. For instance, in 2009, many cases of post-traumatic stress disorder are being seen in Britain’s armed forces.
In general terms, many experts believe that most stress in the UK occurs because of our long hours culture.
In February 2007, the Trades Union Congress (TUC) reported that the average employee does almost an extra day’s work (seven hours) per week in overtime.
And in many offices, individuals are working far longer hours – notably in accounting, advertising, law, IT, public relations and broadcasting.
So does this long hours culture matter when we think about stress?

Long hours and stress

Long hours on the job may be viewed by some employers as a way of getting more work done. But in the longer term the consequences of this work pattern appears to be that it:

• increases sickness absences
• increases workplace stress
• has serious health and safety implications
• contributes to low morale in the organisation.

All this means is, we need to look carefully at our lifestyles to try to limit the amount of stress we're suffering.

What happens to us physically when we're stressed?

We are all born with an instinctive stress response.

• Whenever a potentially dangerous situation arises, stress hormones are released into our bloodstream.
• They cause instant mental and physical change in us, giving added strength and endurance, and make us feel pumped-up and ready to fight.
• Stress hormones also enable us to run away much faster than we could normally manage.

This response is generally called the 'fight or flight syndrome'.
The fight or flight syndrome was vital when we used to live in the wild and were liable to attack from other tribes or wild animals. We still use it today.
Suppose someone tried to snatch your child while you were shopping.

Why your parents getting angry?

I loved to play outside when I was a kid. My activities made  my parents so worried. To tell you the truth,I loved climbing trees, swimming in river,pond and roamed around to the jungle.It considered fun at that time.What  I  realized now is why my parents asked me not to play at that time because it was dangerous, not because they tried to stop me from playing.Same as when I told my kids not to do this and that because there's something that parents try to tell in which kids sometimes misunderstand the message.

 I asked my kids to follow my order because I want them to learn first and to follow proper technique before they experience their own one day.But I think they're so eager to do things that against the issue.  I am not getting angry for trying,but I am getting angry because they try to ignore parents orders. Not so bad to follow because its not going to hurt any one.
I advised all kids try to understand your parents first
because they are experienced enough to tell you how and what to do in life.
If you happen to  become parents one day you will know why parents so eager to guide you.
Is it too difficult to follow or listen to your parents?
If you that experienced why not show your parents what you can do.
Impress your parents what talents do you have
Don't just make them angry
Make them  proud and happy
while
they
still around
to tell you
right or wrong

Fikirkan

Perang NAFSU musuh(nyata)Jihad terulung kepada manusia.Tahukah kita bahawa AKAL adalah musuh(tidak nyata)paling licik yang sangat banyak memesongkan manusia ke jalan KESESATAN! Lumrah manusia dengan akalnya "mereka sentiasa menyangka benar tiap perkataan dan perbuatannya"tanpa disedari padahal mereka itu dalam kesesatan yang nyata" Al Quran.

Ayuh kita hijrahkan minda kita zahir dan batin dengan petunjuk Allah SWT melalui ISLAM agamaNya.Salawat dan salam kepada Rasul junjungan Nabi Muhamad SAW


Taken from my hubby SMS 7 Dec 2010 1432 Hijrah.
We 're temporarily khalifah in this world
make proper movement  before its too late
Ask before do
make friends not enemy

What "laugh' can do to us?

Happy! avoid from having stress or release the burden of work.Manage to proceed or at least with great pleasure without tense.Let me share with you some jokes what might make you happy.
Why I  choose my career?
Would you like to continue your father's career as an eye specialist?
No!
Why?
My  father unable to make much money
Why not?
A person only got 2 eyes,so nothing much to do with them.
So what would you like to be
I would like to be a doctor also only in different specialization
What then?
I would like to be a dentist
why ?
Each person got 32 teeth, so I might be richer than my father.

So each person got jokes to tell, proceed with it as long as you're not hurting other.To make people happy is a very sincere thought.

Do parents and kids got the same vision?

I used to remember my childhood time,ye just in case I overlooked into my kids problems. I think parents expecting too much or maybe too protecting upon their kids.I am not blaming them but rather look at it as a good sign as parents. Responsible, eager to know and the most important is parents got vision for their kids. What and what for sure the goodness always!
Let us see whats kids thinking:
Early morning the kids got to go to school
they are forced to take their breakfast, those kids having no appetite to eat(sleeping time)
They go to school as early as 6.00 am and coming back around 2.00 pm (9 hours)
2.00 _ 4.00 pm tuition time somebody taking care of(need flying color grades)
4.00 _ 6.00 pm  outside or inside games
7.00 pm parents arrive from work
Where 're the communication time?
If mom fully housewife staying at home
mom ll take care of everything
the behavior,the character,and so and so
Daddy ask and everything should be in place
Do kids blinding their eyes?
There is something wrong in our society
Both parents: mom and dad should take responsibility
Educate the kids together
Act before its too late
kids are precious , future leaders
parents should work together, guide the kids to see not to force
I, myself like to enjoy during my childhood until I realize without education future
might be okey or not okey
but I know this era need education as part of future trend
in order for us to survive
EDUCATION, formal study needed
you want it or not you have to be in it
Parents always want the best from their kids
kids need attention and care in order for them to
proceed with this process
parents should realize it
kids should manage  to grab the opportunity
just follow your parents good plans
dearest kids you 'll never regret anything
as long as  the parents guide you into good intention
As easy as that: Say yes if good, say no if bad

What is 'Hijrah" to you?

Many people must have heard or come across with this word "hijrah' But many people just see it as it is or thats part of the routine or cultural celebration. For me hijrah is the main or the base to find a new me every year to come, Let me put it this way.If happen to be a person that busy enough to hurt other people feelings year 2010 I will or must look at myself and as fast as possible CHANGE not hurting others or never anymore next year onwards CHANGE FOR GOOD or TAUBAT for the rest of my life.That the meaning of hijrah for individual.As a whole the person should involve himself in the society for the better.Let me precise the issue:
  As a student:
I am not good in my study because I am lazy enough to study,but now I want to hijrah myself
I would like to study smart, so I could be a better person in the future.
I love to lepak with friends during maghrib time and my parents usually angry and I fight back to protect my right
I will change to respect my parents for good
I like to quarrel with my siblings over small matters and sometimes I shouted to them just to protect my ego
I try my best to let go of my ego and be nice to my siblings
Let me say it or ask you:
Do you think a person can change overnight?
Insyallah nothing impossible
Why change needed?
We want to live in peace,right?
We want to live in good environment, right?
We want people to see us as a person,not some one everybody afraid of
We want people to recognize us as individual not a person to talk bad about
So which one do you choose?
Hijrah is the time to realize or recognize or to analyze or to identify oneself
why do you have to change for the better?
You, yourself know better than anyone else
Find out or search for yourself
what change should I do
so HIJRAH as we celebrated every awal Muharram will be meaningful
not only for you but for the whole society  as one
May awal Muharram on the 7 DEC 2010 you are
new you for the better

DO MYTH EXIST?

Once upon a time, long,long time ago,hundred years ago! Whatever you want to start with people really talk about it. It happens and already a history to many of us.But do all passed by you really a history? Or is it a way to identify undone business around us.I passed by one of the group considered old folks.They said:
Just imagine new generations nowadays thought we are outdated
they think they are up to date people
How do you know that?
The way the talk to us.
One of the young one says:
Yo,yo whats up,whats up lady!
The aunt understands the language,but what's wrong with it?
Less respect maybe
Do respect needed anymore?
Are good manners outdated to us?
The students in school happen to be caught by the discipline teacher,he says:
come on teacher,I didn't do much,I just touch here and there
nothing more, so and so five months later
Sir,the girl in my class is not coming to school anymore
Why? You know sir,modern people nowadays?
The teacher says: What is it?
She's is carrying something after 9 months she'll be okay
Wow! so easy to say.
Do you think not having boyfriend outdated to you?
Not touching here and there is outdated to you?
Is getting married outdated to us?
Old folks said:
wait study first,work well one day you;ll meet the handsome for woman and the beautiful for man.
Don't worry too much about it because the old folks you thought outdated full of experiences
respect yourself and respect others
you'll feel good about it no matter where you are
Actually no boarder between young and old because
the different are the ages and experiences
listen and see you,ll
adapt wisely
no regret, not even cry for past experiences
because the way you see things based on
what others can see
mirror, mirror on the wall
who is smartest among all
think about it!