To that extend

I was so surprised to hear such news. I don't even bother to hear about somebody else do this and that until I found out the most trusted person around us really cheat or steal your belonging without you knowing why?why? this particular person. I really don't understand it until I realize this is the test and I have to see and be more careful and only Allah can be trusted. I believe Allah give us a chance to see the real situation so we will not regret later.Thank to Allah because we are given a chance to discover earlier before it is too late to realize.Forgive me Allah for all my mistake and please protect us from any mischief around us.

Why ignorance?

Parents usually care and call their children to eat, to prepare for the exam, to prepare for school and so on. Look at the response you make, do you response immediately after the call or later until your mom really mad at you. Why so ignorance. Are you taking advantage because your parents might call you twice? or are you just such ignorance! which one are you. Think about it. What will happen suddenly there's nobody care to call you anymore. Are you totally lost? No one care because the person you should hear about was not there anymore. No more bothersome to you. Are you happy with it? Check your attitude and make quick decision.


Why parents care for you. Why parents got mad when you are not responding when they call you. Why the answer for sure they care for you. What ia your response to your parents.You are such irresponsible one and do not care for your parents feelings until you forgot your parents really hurt. Why they are been thinking, Why this kids not listening anymore. Parents are not asking you to treat them like the do to you, but they need respect. Do you understand it now, don.t ignore your parents until it is to late for you to realize.

Where do you spend your time most?

When we wake up, we usually ask ourselves what the menu today. When we rush to work, no thinking made,just grab whatever fast to make things done. So at the end of the day, you might end up too much carbohydrates, fat, or protein. What we call as unbalance diets.

Each time you decided to do your exercise or work out. You think a lot about it until you might say 'III do it next time' The next time you will  never know because you have no time allocation for working out. Do you? Time goes by and you might say I regret for being forgetful about my physical fitness.What should you do, you are lying down to face the biggest treat of sickness.Do you have to think twice to make your physical fit? Think about it.

When you rich and want to do good deeds. You always say ' There's so much time for that. When I have free time I will allocate my time to visit the place I would like to do the charity. Until you have no money to spend then you might see what a burden to think of. You have to spend much more time to gain more and will never happen to prove to yourself. Do spend your time and do consider others, so you will never regret the past behind you.

Whatever you do think about the others because they are the mirror of your true self.  Do spend your time to stay healthy and avoid spending time on bed because of being sick. Time worth for those who appreciate the time. Make time and love your time whatever you do or decided to do.

Alphabets with numbers shows the meaning

A  B   C   D   E   F   G   H   I     J     K     L    M    N     O   P   Q   R   S   T   U   V   W   X   Y   Z
1  2   3    4    5   6    7   8    9   10   11   12   13    14   15  16  17  18  19 20  21  22  23  24  24 26  

You want to achieve excellent result in your exam you need few things   to consider, but you will not exceed 100 percent satisfied . Why? You can see and find out soon.

You need      M     O   N   E   Y      
                     13 +15+14+5+24    = 70 percent

                     F   R     I      E  N    D   
                     6+18+  9+   5+14 +4   = 56 percent

BUT if you have potitive:

                        A    T     T     I      T     U      D      E
                         1  +20+20+ 9  +20+   21 + 4 +    5    =  100 PERCENT


I believe positive attitude can make us more open and change for good. Whatever it is think about it. I thank the person who share  this knowledge with us during the professional talk.           

Why so mean

I go through my students book randomly. I found out the most MEAN word inside it written by someone who shouldn't write such thing LAZY! in one piece of the book.I don't know what was the response from that student.In other pages the student asked to write again and again for nearly 100 times the same repeated sentences. What a shame that particular person only think about herself/himself without even consider what would happen to the student involved. I really regret to see and read the comment. I believe if that person rational enough she/he will not even think to write or ask student to do such miserable useless work. There's no learning part if the student punish with such evil way. To those who involved in teaching please consider your student before make any statement or punishment. Make them fully learn what you teach them and be able to carry the knowledge later. Don't make them evil in life because if they happen to do that you might risk the whole future generation. Think before do and don't ever think to involve yourself in teaching profession if you unable to control yourself.

mess now regret later

It happened to many of us. My friend was in primary school when she was coupled. She was very young at the age of 12. For sure many of us least responsible at that age. She kept on mentioning she would get married to the boy she loved.All the way she messed up with her study and fail to achieve her ambition. She dreamt of having her own family too early until she forgot about her mission to further her study. She is fully housewife of many kids of hers. I don't think she wants that type of life because she seems to live her life in such glamorous way during our school day.Once you mess up your time wasted and there's no turning back. But if you try to improve your quality of life, do it now.

Mistake can be fix, but quality of life you're expecting might be different though.Regret only happened to those who fail to realize how precious they are.  

No now yes later

Someone unknown give some tips to you and you might deny it now.  Why? because your ego make you feel great in certain part without knowing you 're 'USED' by such character.You fight for your own right and argue in such manners until you realize you're out of touch and out of reach in many ways.YOU ARE ALONE! be frugal person. I don't think that is your intention.You are making excuses to run away from the reality.NO is the big word for egoist person.Why? because even the good advice might be bad to the eyes of  this person.So do you think you have the right to force this kind of person to change his/her mind. The answer is NO. The person involved should move forward to change the attitudes of his or her. Why bother to ask someone to be this and that. You know the answer, because we live in the same world and your bad attitudes affect the others around you. Do you think flooding, starving,mysterious events, disasters all over the world just happened to those involved with evils?.NO! NO. It happened even to those good ones. WE LIVE IN THE SAME WORLD! Because of this we're responsible to tell the truth and advice others around us to limit his her activities that might affect others.

YES can solve such miserable incidents. Follow good deeds. No matter what.You are not going to lose anything nor missing anything. You follow the rules, the rules give the ways to solve what is wrong and fix it right. IS IT IDEAL ENOUGH. YES.

When ?

I was a baby, I knew nothing and I thank my parents for caring. If they were not around to pamper and care for me I don't think I am here now as it is. I will never forget and never will. I hope my parents in good health and bless for their hard work.

Now I am on my own life with my own children and I have no time to see my parents. I hope they understand the situation because the responsibility has change.Although I am not around them they are always in my heart.

My parents are getting older and so am I.That's the way things are.We are not permenantly living here. We will go to the next world and everybody will. Now or later nobody knows.Just accept it because everyone is facing the same things later.

Remember every dos and donts might affect your life. Not today but tomorrow. If you have extra do not regret to share some. Make ways for charity. You will feel the cooling part of happiness.Think properly and clearly. Avoid fight invite peace. Is that too ideal for you. For sure try and you might feel not regret to follow.

learning thru time

see with your eyes
hear with your ears
touch with your hands
taste with your tonque
feel with your heart
breathing in and out because your're alive
walk straight
think straight
you might
never regret life afterall
IF
you do things accordingly
you will be in peace
IF
vice versa
you might
severely damage
not physically
but mentally
only you can feel the burden
SO
think and make things right
IF
you already far overdone
back off now
you still have time to change
notthing impossible
because of possible still around

Surprise!

I was shocked some people try to make knowledge as their own and not really try to share it with the others. I believe when someone interested to read or share your articles it shows your article is the precious one to share with. I encourage people around me to read  and make use of any materials as part of knowledge to be shared. I believe the more people interested to use your written information  the more knowledgeable the person is. Believe me  or not you know the facts out of it. Think about it and be happy to share.  

Sacrifice?

Many of us only listen and hear what others say
Many of us unable to practise
to implement
the real sacrifice
even the smallest matter in life
to donate your money
to someone most needed
to those really asked
What do we understand about it
Only part of history
Why do we unable to relate
because we care less about
others
selfishness
make us far from realizing
the real sacrifice
as mentioned to us
decades ago
we forgot we are
part of the story and
we nearly forgot
about our duty as caliph
before its too late
make some move
study about your part
so we will not that far
from 'why are we here'

Why worry?

I know why am I here
I know where I go
Why should worry
I know I am just human being
with lots of thinking
I am scared just like ordinary people
around me
I am who I am
I need support
I need comfort
But who can stay
to lend the help we need
So try hard to stay stronger
and you might see and get
what you need later
nothing impossible in this world
but its possible if you try
hard and with knowledge
whatever you want
with Allah's will
everything will be okay

EXAM?

What are you searching for? Good grades? APPRECIATION? AMBITION?FUTURE? GOOD JOBS? Whatever it is all depending on you, yourself as the main planner and should know you own intention to make theory into reality. GOOD ANSWER GOOD GRADES GOOD FEELING GOOD ENDING. GOOD LUCK MAY MD AKID AND LYANA GOT THEIR WISH COME TRUE.

Teachers expectation

Many teachers expected their students pass with flying colours. But do all those students perform as expected. For sure NO. Some of them can achieved really remarkable grades. Some of them just in the middle and non perform at all. Some of them drop out and so on. Not all of them coming from the same roots. They have different background and you might facing them in one class and you as teachers should  learn more, so you do not really stern in teaching those unbelievable behaviours. For sure you know what I mean because we  have been there beforehand. As professional teachers, we should prepare ourselves on how to tackle these different and unique behaviours.  Make sure you prepare well because you might facing the unexpected one. But whatever it is dearest students you are still very young and need to grow well. Give your teachers a chance to guide you and make you someone you yourself will be proud of. Not all of you received university certificate, but you are needed to be the best to serve the society and yourself. Cooperate well and we will build the best nation ever.

What should you serve during Aidil Fitr celebration?

I visited my friends during Aidil Fitr celebration. Nearly everyone forgot about how obedience they are during a month of Ramadhan fasting from morning till night time. The discipline followed without ease, but what happened during 1st  Syawal . Unbelievable! The food oily, sweet and salty all combined together and forgot about how the stomach of us struggle to carry the bulge of mixed food. Try hard to digest. We might sick or collapse because we forgot the tummy has rest for a month. Think about it how could you harm you own tummy just because you have been fasting for a month. Is it a kind of revenge? Think about how to make your body rest in peace although you can eat whatever you like. Try to make it calm by eating fruits or non oily food for example. Make few changes so you will enjoy your eating habit a bit more than before. Your stomach might get use with food and slowly you can manage to make eating habit more healthier than before.What about it? Think before do. What about serve your friends fruits, salads or healthy cereals rather than sweet cookies or cakes. Whatever it is think for the best.

Do you understand others?

At first  I decided to jot down how naive people are. But I pointed to myself. Do I understand others? Now I realized I might be a problem or else why problem exist around me or someone else problem that might affect me. I decided to see both sides, so I can link the matters and find ways to the exact solution. Do you think I do the right decision? Think with me and find the way!

prepare to face reality

I am out of words. Not even ideas. I know why. There are many obstacles around us where people you're expecting good might be bad one day. Now you decided to change your perception from good view to not. It is not surprising at all. People tend to change within 24 hours. Anyway whatever it is don't ever expecting good  things and prepare for the worst too, so you are calm enough to face anything  beyond  your thinking.

Be professional

I don't know why people take advise as a personal matters. For me when come to discuss about work there is no such thing as take it personally. I like to be more open and discuss things in a cool manner and no heart feeling. During discussion it's okay to say your own opinion, but it doesn't mean your ideas acceptable by the group. Whatever it is open up and no heart feeling so you're at the right track. What happen during discussion the person burst out loud and cry in front of  you. For sure I can't say much about it and unable to tackle such environment. All I have to do is wait until the person calm enough to say his opinion. I don't really understand why this situation exist among professional people. I think I have to learn more about human feeling so I can understand them more when the same scene happen.

Think before do

A story on TV make me really think,why people think based on what they can see or hear. The story is about how a girl reported her being raped, but the court not really on her side. The story make the rapist free without fair evaluation. For sure there are more rational people around. Think about it before you make any conclusion because your thinking might not true or you need second opinion for sure to make final decision. Anyway the process is clear think before do and don't make conclusion before sure enough about it.

Adakah?

Jika kamu di beri kebebasan

kamu akan berjaya dalam hidup

Adakah

jika rambut kamu punk di tegur ikut aturan 

kamu akan siksa di masa depan kamu

Adakah berpakaian kemas itu 

menjadikan hidup kamu miskin di masa depan

Adakah

teguran guru itu

menjadikan kamu tidak berguna di masa hadapan

Adakah kamu

tidak mahu berubah menyebabkan

kamu lari dari disiplin diri

Adakah kamu senang

jika hidup kamu dibiarkan tidak sempurna

Adakah kamu mahu bina hidup sendiri tanpa

didikan yang betul dari guru kamu

fikirlah jika di tegur untuk kebaikan

kerana hanya guru yang prihatin

dapat membina diri kamu

menjadi insan yang kreatif dan berguna

pada diri dan orang lain

fikirkan

 teguran itu

agar kamu dapat bina diri yang benar benar manusia

don't ignore those needed help

Many students unable to express their feelings although satisfied or not. They just follow whatever given to them. Sometimes you can see them protest what we see as' discipline problem' Do they really having discipline problem or are we not doing a good job to protect them or understand their problems. Usually the discipline teachers blame for not doing the punishment. Why the students argue with the teacher? Do the students really mean to argue or they just want explain their situation. Are you a good listener? Have you ask with politeness what actually the students facing? Do you alert enough what the students need? Who is the learner? think about it when you try to discipline anyone around you. You will be questioned later for what you did to the others around you. Think about it and try to change 360 degrees if you think that the best thing to do.

how to upgrade students potential?

I decided to think smart of how to make students learn to see their talents. I ask them to show their skills in which many teachers unable to see or don't care much about it. I decided to go down to the students level to make me see the whole process. To my surprise I can see more than enough that these students really talented and lose much of their time without showing it. 

Now I have a chance to help them .How? two practicum teachers  really help me a lot. First, I ask them to train the students to make different performance from traditional one. The talented magic show, then boria new verse with rap song, then shuffle dance followed by break dance and the last one zapin traditional dance and all in one show.I want to tell the students that they can do anything that still acceptable and not really against the school rules.I hope my good intention will open up their minds to see there are many potential they can show and achieve out there. The first step is just for the opening and hope to see more of good things later.

BE YOURSELF

WHATEVER YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE BE YOURSELF AND APPRECIATE IT IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE FOR GOOD DON'T WAIT CHANGE 360 DEGREES TO ACHIEVE IT

Why people unable to see his/her mistake?

I believe my children capable to go further in life. I believe Allah gives them a chance to change for better. I don't believe human opportunity stopped just because they lack of something or vice verse. My believe in    something make me feel everybody got potential in life. I asks my daughter to apply to private university and she's accepted. Although many people around her felt she's not capable, I believe she is. I told them to give her a chance for her to conquered her lost spirit to fight and build her own life later. I pray to Allah may her mission and vision will be blessed.


IS THIS A KIND OF MISTAKE? AM I AT THE RIGHT TRACK? ALTHOUGH NO ONE BELIEVE I BELIEVE ALLAH KNOWS EVERYTHING AND I HOPE MY KIDS FUTURE MUCH BRIGHTER AND LIT  THE OTHERS AS WELL.




Haven't you experience the kids said their parents nagged them again and again. I did. I thanked them for doing so. I will never feel this good if my parents didn't care what and will happened to me later.IS IT NAG?
I missed few fun things, but I  got more to enjoy later. WHICH ONE DO YOU WANT? FUN DURING CHILDHOOD OR LOSE MANY THINGS LATER? 
THINK ,THINK!

Why so difficult to change?

1. Afraid to face new things.
2. Unable to face reality.
3.  difficult to leave comfort zone
 

If you really want to change for good.
Do it NOW!
Before its too late or you might regret it.
Change 360 degrees not step by step people usually do because changing drastically can affect good result
and make you move toward positive achievement.

WHAT PEOPLE WANT TO HEAR?

how are you today? I am fine,thank you. Although you are not feeling well your answer heal the people around you.Why because they have no time for any sad story that might bother them to listen to.


How is your business? yeah getting bigger and expanding. Although it is  not, play safe because you're on your own to settle any obstacles coming. Try it if you really want to see people reaction if   you're telling them about your problem.

How is your study? great, my grade becoming better. Do you think people will sympathy if  you're not getting any better? Sure no. You might get the blame out from it.

How is your relationship with your girlfriend? wow marvelous! Although it is not. Feel happy to say it.

This is the world around us. Be prepared and take good care of yourself. Do not follow those attitudes because you have your own choice. Be a good listener you might save many needy people around us.

Gambus in Bongawan

I was in Bongawan since 1987. After stayed nearly 10 years came a guy from KK and started to form Gambus group in 1997. He was famous with his created songs that mostly hidden meanings with mostly praised the Islam and Allah the almighty. After few years more mushroom gambus arise. But although the sound seem the same,the purpose was to entertain only, but less message.The former Gambus group is not around anymore. He passed away and his song also not even one can create such melody because of his unique dedication few people can understand him. I thank you to our beloved brother of Islam,belated Ajamain. May Allah bless him always.I hope the gambus group we'll decided to form in  SMKBongawan2 will be getting nearer to your mission .

My journey

I reached the KK city late at night. I remembered I stayed in Tanjung Aru for days. I would never forget my uncle who sincere enough to spend me to watch hindustani movie.The next  two days I was on  the plane towards Peninsula and stopped in KL capital of Malaysia. Big city and really amazed me.The next day I was on my way to Kedah,to  my new school Sultanah Asma.I was totally stranger here.BUT  for better I stayed.There my life begun.

tales, but true

I was still small, but I can differentiate poor and rich by looking at my family background. I told my parents one day I would like to change the quality of life for better. Its okay to stay in the country side, BUT I have to have better life.For that sake, I was really struggle to change for the better. In 1974 during the big flood, I was offered by the government to continue my study,far to Peninsula. What I wanted to share the day I was going to.I used banana trunk to cross the big flood,so I could go to the airport and on the way I was on the lorry as my transport, again stopped for the land erosion to be cleared. I was late.I was very sad indeed. 

10 years towards future

Many students laughed when I  mentioned about " what you do today representing what you might become in  the future" I told them to prepare well now in order to get better position in the future. I used to tell them  my teaching is not concerning just for today;s but for 10 years to come.Its takes time to change, so by giving them ample time to make up or set up what to do next students have the ability to think what best for own good.

HOW?


THINK
ACT
MOVE
CHANGE
LOOK
CREATE
differentiate
allow and aware
you are moving toward it.May success all the way!

The date I remembered 27 Mac and 27 April 2011

I was trusted to handle a big responsibilities in my career. I appreciated the post and willing to let it go because I am still unable to perform well after my surgery last March 2011. I thanked the ministry for giving me such trust to hold the post as a principal at SMK Ulu Sapi, Sandakan. I hope the person who replace me will perform well and full of responsibilities.


I would like to thank my principal  for being so responsible n taking care of her staff. I hope she will achieve her happiness for being so helpful and cheerful around us.

'ulam' good for you

"Ulam" are plants that can be eaten raw, as a form of local salad. The "Ulam" is traditionally a Malay dish, but has become very popular to Malaysians, and is also popular among tourists who have acquired the taste for the wonders of this delight. Today "Ulam" is available at most major hotels in the country as a favourite in buffet lunch or dinner. 

Basically Malaysian "Ulams" are very high preferred. Our  kampong folks healthy because of nutritions , vitamins and minerals obtained from eating "Ulam " for example onions, cucumber, spear mint and pennywort .

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Spring Onion (Bawang Merah)

The picture shows the flower of spring onions another plant to grow at home. They are cultivated from seeds or from the onion bulbs. With this plant, the bulb, leaves and even the flowers can be eaten raw as an "Ulam".

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The second aspect is that "Ulam" is usually taken raw or lightly steamed. This makes it vitamin and mineral content more natural and unaltered by the heat of cooking, very much like the western idea of taking salad.

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Cosmos (Ulam Raja)
The "Ulam Raja"Ulam" that is usually taken raw. "Ulam Raja" shoots is  translated means the King's salad. The scientific name for the plant is Cosmos caudatus. There are many types of "Ulam Raja". The two main types that are popular have pink or white flowers. A more common hybrid of "Ulam Raja" are the yellow flowered varieties or Cosmos sulphureus. The shoots of these yellow varieties too can be eaten as "Ulam". However experts in "Ulam" claims that Cosmos caudatus or "Ulam Raja asli" also called "Ulam Raja tulin" taste better than the hybrids of Cosmos sulphureus which the local calls "Ulam Raja kuning". The picture shows two varieties Cosmos sulphureus or "Ulam Raja kuning". The photograph on the left shows the flower of the "Ulam Raja tulin", and below the edible young shoots that are used for "Ulam" and usually taken with "sambal belacan" a dip made from a mixture of pounded chilli, raw onions, shrimp paste (belacan) and lime juice.

 

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Thirdly, "Ulam" is usually a back yard crop which means it is not farm based,  However because of the growing popularity the common Ulams are now begining to be farmed. It is best to just grow your own in pots or small plots of land around your house. ""Ulams" are naturally local wild plants.

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Cucumber (Timun)
The cucumber is a farm vegetable fruit that can be cooked or taken raw as "Ulam". The picture shows a cucumber fruit and some flowers. This is a climbing plant and can be grown along fences. It can be planted from seeds.

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Greens such as most leafly "Ulams" and cucumber are generally considered cooling for the body. In Malaysia, Thailand and Indonesia, "Ulam" is taken with some form of spices or other such as Sambal belacan, thus becomes a check and balance.


Most important is the variety of Ulam taken by our  kampong folks provides them with minute traces of nutritional elements and minerals thus is believed to provide them balance healthy diet as well as extend their life span. Also their daily work is not sitting in the office but farming, fishing, cooking and keeping house a fair share of exercise and sweat.

 

Finally, do not over do . In short a little is good. Observation of our kampong folks shows that they normally take a large variety (many types) of "Ulams" and in small amounts and do not over eat

 

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Torch Ginger Flower (Bunga Kantan)

There are various species and varieties of Bunga Kantan. The most common type is the Pink variety. The flowers of this ginger plant can be eaten raw or cook. It is popular and frequently used in curry recipes. It forms an important ingredient in the famous "Penang Assam Laksa" and "Kerabu Kedah".




The picture  (left) shows the buds of two different varieties of Bunga Kantan. Use the buds for cooking and salad (Ulam).

What students can do to make their teachers happy?

1. willing to study smart to make good grade.

2. willing to accept advise and practise it.

3. willing to dedicate and help their parents - no disciplinary problems

4. willing to avoid romance -disturbing studies

5. willing to struggle to enroll in college and get better grades

6. happy to study, accept good discipline, study to success n help others to success.

What is teacher's day to you?

I was a student same as you are. I had nothing to offer or not even expensive present to all my beloved teachers. But still I really appreciated all the good deeds and dedication until I achieved my dream to become human beings and useful to others. All I could say "Thank You' to all my primary, secondary, college and university teachers all over Sabah, West Malaysia and USA. I hope I can do my best to educate my students.Long life dearest teachers and may your dedication make your life more cheerful and happy always.HAPPY TEACHER"S  everyday.

Why some people not successful in life?

Late while things should be early or on time

make many excuses when ask to do the work

No initiative to improve although he/she has time to do so

ask someone to do things rather than trying on her/his own

put blame on others if not selected

make slow movement and not energetic

wait rather than move forward

ask someone to decide

Why feel so angry when you're left behind?

Think about it

Who's going to wait for someone like you?

I think you., yourself is not patience enough

to wait for non ambitious person.

What do think?

What is mother's day?

I wake up early in the morning
I decided to make my mom happy
I help her to clean up some house chores
washing dishes,sweeping the floor,make the kitchen shine
for sure cleanliness is my first target before my mom wakes up
I have nothing more precious than to make her feel good
I know I have nothing to give her more meaningful
than to appreciate her dedication to the family


Do you think present
the most precious to her?
Do you think your expensive gift make your mom happy?
What about change to something new
make her something or cook for her during mother's day
what is her reaction?


Listen to her advise
talk to her
don't make ker upset
what more a mom need
when her kids love her
Think about it


happy mother's day will always be remembered not only today ,but everyday.

how to make your kids love learning?

1. create routine
  - train them to accept the routine and guide them to do so.
2. form the routine
   - prepare the time table and make them follow without regret
3. communicate well
   - listen and appreciate them
4. make learning fun
   - create learning through game the kids love to do together
5. be a role model
    -show the best example for the kids to follow. Show the positive side.


There's many ways to guide the kids. You are the brilliant one. Show them the right way. They are the future leaders and we are responsible to guide them well.

How to make people accept each other?

My opinion is very simple
1. no racist
2. don't differentiate poor and rich
3. everyone has potential
4. borderless learning
5.borderless thinking
6.accept criticism
7.appreciate others
8. opportunity open to everyone
9.no jealousy, no hatred
10. help others


What do you think?
I know there's no ideal ways, but it is possible to eliminate negative path. Is it? Think about it.

What about a tale : ' Bawang putih, bawang merah?

The story was all about stepmother and stepdaughter. Lets see the positive things about it. Bawang putih was the stepdaughter and she was asked to do the cleaning the chores, washing clothes, cooking the food, picking vegetables, fishing and picking woods to do the cooking. 

What do you think Bawang putih will get out of it? Sure looks so cruel, right? Actually Bawang Putih is very lucky indeed. She is a very healthy girl. She is very energetic and can run all over the place because of her physical fitness. Do you agree? Bawang Putih can sing very well and at the end she meets her loved one from the palace. We are talking about the considered cruel hardwork by the stepmother turn out a very healthy moment to Bawang Putih.


Let us talk about Bawang Merah, Bawang Putih stepsister. She is doing nothing, but to tell Bawang Putih around to do this and that. She is the most relaxing one and doing nothing. She knows sleeping and eating only. The mother gives her full freedom to and no teaching at all about cleanliness. So What do think? Do you think she has healthy life? She is not only doing nothing, but also she has a very negative thinking especially with her stepsister. Which one is suitable to follow. You know what I mean. Do not be cruel that the first step to do.But do more exercise  to make you healthy. Do you have to ask your doctor? To be safe, yes! 


Sometimes its fun to talk about the tales around us. Let make it serious and relate to our daily life. If you already a step ahead to make your life more healthy lets continue, if not yet lets move forward, so you can make your life more happier than ever.

Do you remember 'cinderella' story?

I was so unhappy when I watched 'cinderella' story long long time ago. Sometimes I cursed the stepmother of her for behaving such cruelty. But, now I praised her for being doing so. Just imagine if  so called Cinderella treated vice versa. Let us share the positive side of the story. Cinderella actually lucky in a sense that her hardwork doing the cleaning all the chores, cooking the food and roaming around the garden to pick some vegetables really a very good exercise for her. She is considered very particular about cleanliness. She cooks her food and learns about cooking at the same time. By doing all those things again and again she is expert in it. She knows to differentiate clean and dirty environment. She appreciates beautiful garden and at the same time she loves the great views. Cinderella wakes up early in the morning to do her house chores and she feels healthy all the way. She is actually very lucky girl. Despite her two stepsisters, her stepmother gives them full freedom to sleep all day as they wish. They are not doing anything at all,but to sleep and eat on and on until they are fat enough and difficult to handle themselves. The stepmother has to put dress on them with difficulty. They make themselves that way and on their on term. They ask Cinderella doing the cleaning, preparing food for them, cleaning their clothes and so on. At the end of the day Cinderella gets the advantage where Cinderella becoming more healhtier than her stepsisters.By doing all the work, Cinderella blood flows nicely and healthy. Her body looks slim and nice to look at. When come to positive thinking, the two stepsisters always have negative attitudes and Cinderella has her positive thinking about her family. What do think, Cinderella achieves in life? The story told us that Cinderella married to a very handsome prince because of the magic shoe left out at the castle. What do you think about the shoe? It shows us again how the size of the shoe showing us the healthy person wearing it. Less fat more beautiful, is it right?Exercise this is the story all about and the stepmother cruelty shouldn't be acceptable. But the work Cinderella did really save her from getting serious sicknesses such as strokes, diabetes and so on.  What do you think happening to the two stepsisters? Think about it and make you own conclusion.

how to enjoy your life.

Do you want to live a happy life? If you say yes like most people do, then it’s important to learn to enjoy life. Some people may think that they can only enjoy life when they already have a lot of money or have a successful career. But that’s not true. You can enjoy your life where you are with what you already have. You can enjoy your life now.
Here I will share with you how to enjoy life. But before that, I’d like to share two tips that are essential to live a happy life. The first one is to be grateful. I can’t emphasize enough how important it is. No matter how many pleasant things you do, if you don’t learn to be grateful you will always see things negatively.
The second one is to slow down. Life has a lot of simple things you can enjoy. But if you move too fast you will overlook most of them. So don’t be in a hurry. Don’t move too quick. Slow down and pay attention to the world around you. Most of the ways I’m about to share will work well only if you slow down.
With those two tips in mind, here are 30 ways to enjoy life. Pick the ones that work for you:

1. Enjoy your meal. Don’t just eat. Taste it and appreciate its richness.
2. Learn to cook.
3. Feel music and not just listen to it.
4. Play music. More than just listening, playing music allows you to express yourself.
5. Sing.
6. Gather with old friends.
7. Take a walk in the park.
8. Go hiking.
9. Read a novel.
10. Find and watch a movie you like. IMDB‘s recommendation engine can help you find movies you may like.
11. Give yourself a lazy day.
12. Play board games with your friends.
13. Have a candle-light dinner with your spouse.
14. Play mini games.
15. Read comics.
16. See beautiful pictures.
17. Read inspiring quotes.
18. Learn to paint.
19. Read a classic book.
20. Exercise with friends.
21. Watch funny videos.
22. Play with kids.
23. Play a mind game.
24. Have a cup of coffee.
25. Get a massage.
26. Go to a museum.
27. Go to a theater.
28. Watch sunrise.
29. Take pictures.
30. Browse your photo album for your treasured memories.

I’m sure there are still a lot of other ways to enjoy life. What is your favorite way to enjoy

How to Get People to Like You

The ability to get people to like you is a great skill to have. It makes meeting new friends easier and it can make your professional relationships much more productive. However, not everyone is naturally likable. Most people need to put some effort into getting people to like them.

• Smile. Not only is smiling said to make you look younger and more attractive, but it draws people to you. It also helps you stay positive and people are always attracted to a positive person.
• Remember names. Everyone appreciates having their name remembered, so put extra effort into remembering each person's name. Do whatever works for you, maybe you can create a rhyme or visualize a humorous situation and associate it with that person and his name. Repeat the name quietly to yourself several times.
• Listen. One way to become instantly likable is to actually listen to what people are saying to you. Meet eye contact and be genuinely interested in what they say.
• Be respectful. You're not always going to agree with everything another person does, but you don't need to be rude or condescending when voicing your disagreement. Always be willing to acknowledge if you're wrong.
• Acknowledge another person's accomplishments and do so sincerely. When you praise someone, mean it. People always sense meaningless praise. If you can't find something about the person to sincerely praise, then it's best not to try.
• Like yourself. Of course, not everyone who loves themselves is going to be likable to others, especially if the self-love runs to conceit. However, if you want people to like you, then you need to understand why they should. Compile a list of your good qualities to help you find things to like about yourself.

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How can I stop being so sensitive?

Any little negative comment towards me puts me down. I realize this is my weakness and want to change. Any tips

Usually when criticism effects you so negatively it can be traced to a low self-esteem. I love how you worded this...you realize its your weakness...so many people would blame others.

Find some things you ARE good at and spend your time doing them or improving skills you are proud of. Take a college class if you are old enough.

When someone says something negative, try to seperate whether its personal (negative about you) or just negative in general. A lot of people are just flat out negative and do not realize how they sound to others.

Do not feel too awful about being sensitive. The world needs more sensitive people...so try turning it to you advantage by developing empathy for others and being sensitive to their needs.

why people sensitive?

Now, as an introduction to the trait of high sensitivity, see if some of these statements resonate with you, or relate to someone important in your life...

You, your partner, or someone important to you have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your environment, whether it's sight, sound, touch, taste, or smell.

You can become stressed out and upset when overwhelmed and may find it necessary to get away, maybe into a darkened room, to seek solitude, relief and comfort.

You are very creative.

You are very conscientious, hard working, and meticulous, but may become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being watched or scrutinized.

You feel compelled to file and organize things and thoughts, also enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed or even immobilized by chaos, clutter, or stress.

You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out of your control.

You get a sense of comfort and well being when around a lake, river, stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.

You may experience mood swings, sometimes occurring almost instantly and can also be affected by other people's moods, emotions and problems.

You have a deep, rich, inner life, are very spiritual, and may also have vivid dreams.

You are very intuitive and you feel that you can usually sense if someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.

You get concerned and think or worry about many things, and have also been told "you take things too personally."

You have had the experience of "cutting people out" of your life.

You were considered quiet, introverted, timid, or shy as a child.

Here are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily. Cautious in new situations. May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to pain. Don't like crowds (unless they are kindred spirits). Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has a deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.

Do some, or many, of these statements ring true for you, your partner, or someone important in your life? If so, you or they may be a highly sensitive person or "HSP." Whether you already know something about the trait and temperament of highly sensitive people, or if this is your first introduction to the subject, welcome! The goal and intent of this website is to impart information, provide support and be a resource to individuals with the trait of high sensitivity and for the people in their lives.

stop pointing 'stupid' to the others!

Do you know you are pointing one finger to the others but the four other fingers pointing to you. Who's stupid actually. Stop being one. When you angry with someone try to calm yourself down rather than saying any useless words. You might end up feeling very happy about it. I know it is easy say than doing, but you are rational enough, are you? If you try to solve your problem with anger you know you might got really sick and getting hurt by many people around you. No one try to understand people with angry mood. Many people try calm those getting the blast. Do you think so.You have nobody around you, so you're considered sick or pathetic person. Are you? I don't think you want that. Make room to think before doing. Try to love more than hate. Actually nothing impossible in this world and you know your limit right! Even when you say 'stupid' to others you might never feel happy about it because you are becoming the 'victim' in a sense that nobody respect you for behaving such way. Enjoy your life man.Appreciate others and share with them. Don't isolate your life from others, try to socialize yourself and you might see this world differently. Why do you have to spend your life feeling depress, making life stressful to everybody. Enjoy and you will make this world more meaningful not only for you but to the others around you.

why ignorance?

I don't know what happen to our kids nowadays. They are not really around when their parents need them. I taught them how to cook, to take care of dishes, washing own clothes and taking care of the cleanliness of the house and overall house chores. But still they are ignorance in many things. They are not alert when their parents need them to cook when their parents sick or helping their parents automatically do without instructions. Do all kids have the same problem. No volunteer attitude. Not even asking what the parents really love to do and they are just don't care about old folks did long.long time ago. I never teach them to forget. Do kids hated doing house chores? What will happen when they get married? If you rich enough of course you can pay the maid to do house chores, but what will happen if not. I have been thinking to hire the maid who can take care of everything,but I will spoil my kids to be more dependant then. I want them to learn that life is not that easy. You might have rich family, but you are not rich yourself. Your parents got lots of money, but that is not yours.You are lazy in many good things. Lazy to study, what happen? lazy to do house chores, who's responsible? lazy to make your bed.whose bed is it? lazy to wash your clothes, whose clothes is it? You are ignoring clean house. You like to throw your clothes all over the house and look like everything yours. What are you? Think about this and respect your parents while they still alive. Make them happy while they are staying with you. They are not staying permenantly in this world, so are you. Not that difficult to do or please your parents, I'm sure you know that. Don't waste your time calculating your energy for helping your parents.They are just happy enough if you show your caring attitude and help them at home.Make room for them and love them through your concern. They are not asking for money, but your concern to help the most priority.

why hatred exist?

I knew many friends around me who hatred so many things around them. I felt so tense with the situation and sometimes make me blast somehow. Just imagine we're living in this world together then at the same time some people are just hated you so much. They are around you and anytime they will make you depress just because they will try so hard to make you feel uncomfortable. It could be by using bad words or gestures. But why? I don't understand it at all because we are having the same features,but at the same time you hate that person. so unethical!  People involve in war or fight in which they are killing and hurting the same features as they are. Oh my what happen to this world. Weird and funny at the same time. Although hatred exist, but I think caring and loving people still around only that the positive one usually covered by negative aura around us.Please people don't make your life miserable. Enjoy it so you will find the world full of excitement. Helping others make your life more meaningful and making people happy much more worth than making them cry. The world is the place to do good deeds before you die. There's no way to come back to regret what you did before. So try to be rational be nice and make this world as peaceful as possible, so there will be no more absurd characters that everybody afraid of. Peace and harmony will cover the destruction  human created in this world.

what do you think?

Students are the learners and the teachers the facilitators only. If both sides know their responsibilities the school is the most suitable place to gain more knowledge. The need for each other make teaching and learning more meaningful and successful. What happen when the students try to do vice versa and the teachers also act vice versa. The school becoming chaos and out of control. Do you think this type of students and teachers will produce such quality leaders in the future? Think about it and make your own conclusion. The students should know their roles same as the teachers. Without students there's no teachers around. Do you think so. Why make things complicated. Behave as needed both students and teachers. Respect each other well and make the school as peaceful as possible. If the students overdo things make them come back and advise them to the right parh. Is it easy to do? No, but possible. Tolerable,loving, and caring is part of the secret. What about patience? Yes the most needed. Love your work teachers, the students will know that and they are waiting for the most enjoyable teaching. They are hungry for the fun learning and creative teaching. If students need varieties why not brilliant teachers show them all. Make our future generation open minded and more creative so we will build better leaders.in the future. No more sad stories about teachers this and that and students this and that. You know what I mean. So stop all the nonsense, be resaponsible because we have been wasting our energy and time just because we are fail to fulfill our duties. Open your eyes and mind. Stop being negative and stay positive in thinking.